Fire-Tending: Support & Reflection for Leaders

As leaders, we enter each day not really knowing what awaits us.

What we experience on our journey ranges from extreme challenges which cause us to question our very reason for being –– to overwhelming joy through true human connection and accomplishment.  Throughout it all, leaders carry a load of tasks and responsibilities which seem to be never ending.

The Fire Analogy

Judy Sorum Brown, in her poem Fire, reminds us to be intentional about leaving a breathing space in our daily lives.  While breathing space is important to the health of a fire, there are two more relational components required for a fire to exist.  They are the flame and the logs.  All three of these elements work in unison to create a healthy fire.

Consider the flame.

It is what makes you, you.  It is your spark!  It is your passion, your interests, your values and your strengths.  Knowing your flame is essential to knowing your path.

What are your logs?

The logs are what you do everyday.  Your actions.  What do your logs look like?  Do they help your fire burn brightly or are the putting your fire out?  How many logs are there?  Too many?  Too few?  Do your logs (actions) align with who you are or who you want to be?

Finally, we get to Judy Sorum Brown’s “breathing space”.

Maintaining a breathing space is creating time for you.  It is knowing you cannot serve those around you if you don’t take care of yourself. Breathing space is reflection. It is intentionally setting time aside to think about how life is going. It is looking at your flame and remembering who you are, who you want to be and why.  It is looking at your logs and making sure what you do is in alignment with who you want to be. It is being authentic. It is being intentional about poking at your fire from time to time to keep what is working alive and not being afraid to make changes to things that are not.